“The Palin selection is the single most dangerous event in the conscience of the Christian community in the last 10 years at least,” said Doug Phillips, president of Vision Forum, a Texas-based ministry. “The unabashed, unquestioning support of Sarah Palin and all she represents marks a fundamental departure from our historic position of family priorities — of moms being at home with young children, of moms being helpers to their husbands, the priority of being keepers of the home.”
Not one month ago on the night before the first day of school I cried my heart out to my husband and God. Why had I chosen to work outside the home when I so desperately wanted to be home with Eli? In that moment my heart hurt because what was best for our family was that I go back to work. No one forced me, but I knew deep in my heart that it was the right choice. Like so many other Christian young women I had always thought that I would be the one that got to stay home with our kids. Though I missed teaching, I was more than willing to put it aside for a time in order that our children would be raised with a parent at home. Over the past few years, Paul and I have learned to listen to God. We learned the hard way, so my decision to go back to work was not made in haste. Still, on that night before the first day of school, though I trusted completely that I had made the right choice, I mourned the loss of my precious time with Eli.
But that’s not really what I wanted to write about. Over the past few weeks, I have stood in awe of my husband. He is so good at running our household. Paul strives to be good at everything he does – it’s a part of his nature. He plays with Eli, disciplines him with love, and is so efficient. He is very intuitive about being a keeper of our home – YET – he is still the head of our home. He is so much the head of our home, in fact, that he has taken on the most important aspects of our home. I am still a helper to my husband, even though I am gone a good portion of the day. He still likes to be served desert (though he may have made it). We work very well together as a team because we have both been in the other’s shoes.
Why do I write this? Well when I was reading this article I just had to disagree. I think too many women are just happy if they leave thier kids alone with thier husband and the house is still standing when they return. It can be a different way. It doesn’t have to be, but it can. I think assuming that our men can’t do this most important work is wrong. I used to think it was my “right” to be the one who stayed home, I think many women do.
FYI – I don’t cry every night before I go to work, and yes, my relationship with Eli is different now, though it’s not diminished in any way. And he just woke from his nap. Bye.