Eli and I checked this CD out from the library. We love it! It’s mellow and (very importantly) not annoying! I feel very uplifted by it. I’m even planning on bringing it with me when I teach preschool Sunday school this week.
“He’s like a little Paul.”
“He’s just like Annie when she was little.”
I guess there’s no getting around the fact that the older generation will compare your offspring to the baby version of you. Hey, I fully reserve the right to do this when my kids have their own babies. But to us our son is just Eli, “B”, Bubza or any of the other nicknames we call him. He was born with a unique personality, and since we didn’t know ourselves when we were babies, our opportunity for comparison is slim.
When we are out and about Eli is often happy, he is in his element, there are people to smile at and new things to smell and grab. I often get the question, “Is he always this happy?” Are people hoping the answer will be yes? Is any baby really happy all the time? And if he is happy, is it because of his disposition or because of good parenting, or both? As much as I would like to take credit when things go well and blame his disposition when things are going south, I think it’s a bit of both. A bit of luck and a bit of skill …. like poker.
Will he share his father’s love of precipitation, art and nature? Will he be a tender hearted homebody like mom? Will he be a long haired, body piercing Jesus-freak? Will he be bookish and sensitive? Will he be a rock-climbing adrenaline junkie?
Like a story unfolding before my eyes, I wait in anticipation for him to give me another clue. I want to hold him loosely, careful not to label, so that he will have the freedom to be himself, loved by his Maker and his parents.
I wanted to give you an update on the great diaper bag dilemna. I am pleased to say that the made-for-target-skiphop bag is working out beautifully for me. I love it. Paul was convinced that it wouldn’t last more than two weeks because he felt my need for cuteness usually outweighs my need for organization. Face it Paul, I’m new and improved. I discovered that it has a neat little system for clipping on to a stroller as well (hidden bonus). I keep another diaper bag in the car with extra diapers, clothes, toys, etc. I drop that one at the church nursery or grandma’s if I need to. It’s always packed so I don’t have to worry about it.
Have you ever heard of flylady? I hadn’t either. I’m not a naturally organized person like my husband. If I don’t have a plan for the day, I walk around my house in circles, never accomplishing one thing. I discovered flylady a few weeks ago. Now, I have to warn you, flylady is a bit cheesy sometimes. Flylady goes a bit overboard sometimes. That said, I think flylady is changing my life. OK, well, at least the way I go about my day. I am finding that I get more done. I have more time for myself. I am not as stressed. I can go to bed on time.
Flylady is a bit hard to describe. Flying (finally loving yourself) is a step by step process that starts with baby steps. I started by shining my sink every day. Once I had that down I added getting dressed to shoes (how many of you stay at home moms out there take a shower and call it good until you have to leave the house, then you have to go fix yourself before you leave, wasting time). Next I added a swish and swipe of my bathroom (wiping off counter, putting everything away and swishing the toilet). I didn’t follow all of the flylady’s steps, just the ones I felt I needed. I decided to write out a daily routine of things that needed to happen every day. It’s not hard to follow, there are no strict timelines and if I feel it doesn’t need to be done – ha – I don’t do it. I’ve also started menu planning and following a strict food budget (because I like to cook, I can go overboard in this area).
One thing I have learned from the flylady is that you can do anything in 15 minutes. If I have a mission for the day or something I feel really needs to be done (today it was wiping out the inside of the fridge) I set the timer for 15 minutes and do it. Most of the time I am done in 15 minutes and then I can rest.
I don’t know, maybe you have things figured out. I need help. Thanks flylady.